Am I always right?

No. I am not. Neither are you. No one can always be correct. Not all our deeds are justifiable. Our behavior is not accepted by everyone else, all the time. Why? The answer is simple. There is no strict standard for ‘right and wrong’. It depends on various factors such as our bringing up, our morals, the outlook we have towards the world, the society we live in, the influence of religion, the circumstances that shaped us, our experiences, our attitude towards life and the list goes on and on. It differs from individual to individual. So basically, we can’t point out right and wrong in others’ sense of right and wrong. 

We are all different persons. Different souls; different bodies. Hence the way of doing things, looking at things, thinking about things, differs from person to person. On what ground could we possibly judge if something done is right or wrong? In generic terms we may, but strictly it is not possible for, what we think is right maybe wrong for the other person. 

When we get caught up in our own view points and categorize everything as right and wrong, our mind becomes so narrow that it fails to accommodate views and thoughts from outside. We become obsessed with our own thoughts, behavior and end up being stubborn to all possibilities of change. 

Children have no sense of ‘right and wrong’. They do what pleases them. They act upon their temptations. They speak their mind, unafraid of the consequences. Hence, their mind is said to be pure as gold. But as they grow, we feed a program in their minds and hope that it runs in infinite loops, throughout their lives. The intention is always to guide them; to help them lead a proper life guided by certain principles. But often, we end up planting seeds of fear in their minds. Fear about the consequences of not doing ‘right things’ and of doing ‘wrong things’. Knowingly or unknowingly we inculcate hate and dislike towards certain things and an obsession in doing certain acts. Their true identities get smudged somewhere between this hate and obsession; fear and satisfaction; right and wrong.

We all act in the way which serves us best, which we think would be fruitful; which we think is ‘rightful’. In short, we adopt the ways which give us mental satisfaction (Because let us face it, satisfying everyone else seems like an impossible task). Same applies to people who are not us. We all have different ways, attitudes and identities. Then why do we carry with us, this urge to impose our ways on others?; to advise them on what is good and bad?; to preach what is right and wrong? Can’t we just let them be? Seems like we just can’t. 

Righteousness and wrongfulness is just a product of human mind. This sense of right and wrong may vary as we age; as we open our minds to new possibilities; as we encounter life in different stages. It is best to use it as a guiding scale. It is nothing to be obsessed about or imposed upon. At this point, ‘Live and let live’ indeed seems to be a fine piece of advice.